Listlessness affects both men and women. Listlessness is one of the most common topics in counseling

Listlessness in women and men – psychological causes

On the psychological level, your listlessness is a reaction to circumstances in your life that no longer fits It is often a combination of several causes. Listlessness need not be a permanent condition! If you feel listless, ask yourself, “What is good sex for me? What about my relationship?”.

Relationship problems and unspoken expectations of the partner are the most common triggers. The symptom of listlessness avoids sex because you may not get what you enjoy The following psychological stresses play an important role:

• everyday stress
• too high sexual demands (on yourself and on the partner),
• unfulfilled sexual desires and fantasies
• insecurity and shame
• lack of communication

Do you feel your problems are overwhelming you? Are you no longer able to get everything under control? Then we are here for you. We support you competently with solution-oriented methods.

relationship problems

Couples seek emotional calm, care and security in relationships. A good partnership builds on these factors. In the first phase of falling in love, you can hardly leave one another alone. Over the years, curiosity and spontaneous lust vanish. With everyday life and the continuation of the relationship, the sexual desire decreases.

Persistence and trust replace sexual curiosity. The situation becomes a burden when one of the partners feels a greater need for sexual closeness.

Fear paralyzes and separates couples

Are you afraid to say what you really want? Or don’t want to? Are you afraid of hurting others? In our consultation we create the opportunity to talk about injuries, shame, disappointments and fears, as well as wishes and desires. This exchange prepares the ground for new developments.

Stress as a lust killer

If you demand top performance from your body and mind all day long, there is no time for pleasure in the evening. But time for yourself and for each other is an important factor in a fulfilling sex life. When everyday stresses get to be too great, your body reacts with withdrawal and listlessness.

Are you stressed and have you noticed for a long time that this condition affects your sexual desire? Do you suffer from it? Then give us a call! We will accompany you with advice tailored to your needs.

Sexual desires

Know the wish: Your sex should be sparkling and exciting. However, you experience it as so unsatisfactory that your body prefers to no longer feel this “cramp” and this effort. A sexual encounter is much more than a short, well-coordinated process.

Would you like to feel again what really excites you and which situations attract you erotically? Would you like to feel alive and sensual again? Then it is time for you.

• deal with your wishes
• seek a conversation with your partner
• try new ideas

In our consultations, we work on the multifaceted topics that lie behind desire. We accompany you and your partner to find a common basis for discussion.

Little knowledge of the body leads to uncertainty and shame.

Many women (but also men) know little about their body and their genitals. These deficits lead to uncertainty and shame. Female and male sexuality are based on different requirements. Do you know your body?

Do you know about the anatomical requirements? What functions do the individual body parts have for sexual experience? And how can they be stimulated? Your own body is the key to lustful sex.

Do you feel hurt by your partner’s behavior or statements?

Your body prefers to avoid such situations and is listless. But which woman is the norm? Self-love and self-care are essential to show yourself to your partner.

How do you see your body? How much do you like him?

In our consultations, women often report that they have a negative image of their bodies. You don’t feel “beautiful” enough. And lose the desire to have sex. Above all, women learn what is “normal” and “right” from social guidelines and media communication. These norms restrict and have a negative impact on pleasure.

Listlessness in men

In recent years, men have raised the issue of listlessness and sought advice. In doing so, they emerge from the social picture that shapes male sexuality.

There are many myths surrounding male sexuality that put men under pressure. The biggest myth is that male lust is driven. Men are always in the mood and are always ready. But what if you feel listless and not aroused? Then it is worth taking a look.

Listlessness resulting from the pressure of expectations

Men strongly combine their self-confidence with their sexual stamina, strength and activity. If the erection and desire do not work, then you question yourself as a whole person. For men, their lust and arousal are part of their identity.

Male pleasure also arises in phases. It builds up and is prone to failure. A high pressure of expectation that it always has to work, is often the reason that the desire disappears completely.

Feedback from a client
“For me, three things were particularly remarkable: I felt that I was picked up where I was, I felt completely seen, and I suddenly understood aspects of my sexuality that I hadn’t seen very clearly until then. Strengthened with these great aha moments, I went away relieved and happy … Thank you!”
(Gerlinde, 61 years, listlessness)

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• Heartache / separation
• Pain during sex
• male orgasm disorder
• Erection problems
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